Drugs are bad, m'kay?
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We're at Pride dancing and checking out DJ Funkybearmartin's set and we noticed this guy that was dancing with a LOT of enthusiasm. And drugs. Lots and lots of drugs. We were hoping that he and the other drugged out dude close to him would make a love connection.



"Oh, I'm cool...I have gay friends....", they said.
You know, I don't think I've commented on this whole Prop 8 thing along with all it's related discussions. I think other people have done that with more eloquence than myself. However, I DO want to comment on a particular trend I've seen in online comments and on the opinions expressed by a lot of "cool" and "enlightened" straight people when they express their opinions on gay marriage.

I can honestly say that when I look back at my life, I can identify one of its turning points as the moment I realized that when straight people say they are your friends, but they also agree with the anti gay sentimens of their Church-of-Choice, then they are not really your friends.

Statements like "Marriage is a holy institution between men and women" or that it's "OK for us to be gay as long as we don't act on it" or "love the sinner, not the sin" when applied to gays and lesbians cannot go along with "I have gay and lesbian friends" or "My straight friends love me".

This. does. not. compute.

There's no love there. If straight people you know believe things like these, then they don't love you for who you are. I mean, yes, human beings are complicated things. We can relate to each other in many other ways in which sexual identity plays no part, but gods, it's SUCH a core part of EVERYONE'S identity, isn't it? Simple things like talking about a movie you went and saw with your boyfriend or holding hands are things that remind them that they won't be seeing YOU at the Rapture Afterparty.

What kind of true bond can you have when they are fundamentally opposed to your nature? The only thing I can see there is either a thin veneer of civility (so they don't have to spend energy acting rude to you or worse) or pity. They are nice on the outside, but feel this way on the inside. Are these qualities you want in your friends?

Honestly, I can deal with knowing that people are being polite and civil so we don't have to kick each other's teeth in, but when celebrities (and people) say shit like "I have gay friends, but I also respect and believe the church's teachings" it just rubs me the wrong way.
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Creepy lemon in package...
Creepy lemon

Can you hear it? Can you hear the sweet, melodious voice saying...

You want to buy these lemons.... you WANT to buy these lemons...

You want to make delicious lemon bars with these lemons...

You want to dip your children in high fructose corn syrup and feed them to the Ancient Ones....

Yes, yes you do.

Work it
Artsy people in my Flist currently living in California...

I work for a local power utility and there is an opening for what is basically an Art Director. You have your choice of working in the L.A. area or in San Diego. These jobs are RARE for a public utility. I mean, there's all kinds of cool jobs here which are outside of what one would consider your standard office job, but usually people hold on to them FOR.EV.ER. It's rare for one of these to come up for bid.

My personal experience working here has been pretty much awesome. There's friction and drama, but not more than any other job. They have a killer compesation package, bonuses, medical, 401K, stock options, fitness subsidy and domestic partership benefits as well.

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Good luck!!

Since there's so much information on rallies and such, I thought I'd share this link.  It's the ACLU guide to protesting.  It has some interesting information and it does answer some questions that came up during the demonstrations here in San Diego.   For example, one of the organizers told some of my friends that they needed to take the sticks out of their signs.   We all found this very odd.  As it turns out, there IS a reason why.

Q: Can police restrict the size or type of signs or how they are carried or displayed?

A: Generally, no. However, in San Diego, metal stakes, clubs, and pipes are prohibited at rallies. Wooden stakes must be 1/4 inch or less in thickness and 2 inches or less in width.

Who knew? 

You can read the rest of it here: 



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Thank you all so very much for the birthday wishes and to sluggobear for the awesome surprise lunch getogether.

You are all super duper awesome!!

It's 10-01!!

In honor of 10-01 I give you a reprint of the magical musical genious that is Radiohead and the 10-01 playlist article!

(does little OCD dance)

Phone question
OK...haven't posted much, so I'll save the update for another time.

Presently, I need cell phone recommendations. I know ya'll love your iPhones and it IS a delectable piece of geek candy. However, my personal experience was that the PHONE part of the iPhone sucked and I'm looking for a good device that has excellent call quality.

Any non-iPhone cell phone recommendations ya'll can make? I'm with AT&T, but by all means share regardless of who your provider is.


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So the lovely lumberjackie_o introduced me to Antony and the Johnson recently.

So I looked it up on YouTube, lined up about 5 songs and gave it a listen. I have to say that by the time this one came out I was near tears. I don’t remember the last time I was so moved by someone’s music. The man is just brilliant. I thought I was overreacting, but I read the comments to the videos and the comments on iTunes and it seems to be a pretty common response to his stuff. Check out his album "I am a bird now" for the track "Bird Girl" which is absolutely beautiful.

So I did a little digging and I have to say that his music has really made me think about something. Some of Antony’s lyrics have to do with transgender people and the search for identity and, if you see videos of live performances or read a little about him, you can see the subject is close to home.

A while back I was having brunch with some friends of mine and the subject of gay rights and transgender rights came up. The camp seemed to be divided as to whether it was right to include transgender issues with gay and lesbian issues or the issues were different or similar and such. I think that this music, as well as a little reading have brought me to form an opinion on the matter.

I think that, at the heart of the human condition, regardless of being gay, straight, lesbian or transgender, is the quest for personal identity. We all want to figure out who we are, why we are here and what our purpose is. I think I understand now that what we choose to do with that identity, in whatever permutation we desire, should not be something mandated or restricted by governments, religions or social codes. It doesn’t matter if you are a guy who wants to marry a guy or a guy who wants to be a girl and THEN marry a guy. You should be able to do whatever you desire with your identity.

Perhaps, the equality we aspire to achieve (and that every human being is entitled to have) is due to us because of our humanity and not the shape it happens to take.

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